Do you feel the way you want to feel?

Life is filled with many emotions.

Joy, gratitude, love, passion, enthusiasm, pride, happiness, optimism, hope, desire, curiosity, contentment, boredom, apathy,  pessimism, frustration, impatience, anger, worry, jealousy, insecurity, guilt, unworthiness, sadness and hopelessness.

I’m sure you can add many more to this list……..

My question is – which ones are you most familiar with?

Do you spend the majority of your time feeling joy, gratitude and passion or worrying, being disappointed, afraid and unworthy – fearing the worst?

Emotions can spur us forward, or they can hold us back.

Are you consciously creating your life or do you just get swept away in a sea of emotion?

When we see ourselves as being at the mercy of our emotions, we can feel like we’re imprisoned and powerless to change things. To say we’re not in control of our emotions is to place our power outside of ourselves. It doesn’t have to be this way.

With practice we can begin to change our emotions.

Research has shown that when we can be present with our emotions, that they actually pass through us in about 90 seconds. It’s why young children can be sobbing one minute and laughing the next. They’ve not learned to hang on to the emotions or to keep them alive with their stories the way we, as adults, have.

For example, something happens and it makes you feel bad. You begin to tell yourself you’re no good, this always happens, that you can never get it right, it’s never going to get any better etc. This self talk keeps the emotion alive within us for far more than it’s natural 90 second life span. The emotion feeds the story which feeds the emotion and on and on. It really is a vicious cycle.

So what action can you take to change and master your emotions?

Emotional Word Cloud*A commitment to change, to know that with practice you can create a different life by getting conscious of the thoughts you are thinking.

* When you feel a negative emotion don’t try and push it away. Ironically the resistance just gives it more life. Stop. Take a minute. Sit with it. Feel it fully. Focus on your breathing. Every time you notice yourself getting into your story, gently bring your focus back to your breathing. Notice where you feel the emotion and keep breathing in and out and see what happens.

*When you catch yourself wanting to react. Pause. That brief space can make all the difference in what happens next and what the outcome is.

*Spend a day observing and noting down all the emotions you experience throughout the day. You may be surprised by how many there are and how fast they change from one state to another. Or maybe you get stuck in one emotion and you stay there.

Notice what emotions are dominant for you – are they mostly positive or negative?

What emotions would you like to feel more of in your life? Maybe it’s more happiness, more joy or more laughter……

Sometimes, just for fun I focus on a particular emotion that I would like to experience. Maybe inspiration or happiness and then I just go through my day noticing where it shows up. You should give it a try.

Eckhart Tolle says, ‘Emotion arises at the place where the body and the mind meet. It is the body’s reaction to the mind….. Of course usually we are not conscious of all our thought patterns, and so it is often only through watching your emotions that we can bring your thoughts into awareness’

By beginning to pay attention our thoughts we can begin to change our emotions…. Remember the natural life span of an emotion is only 90 seconds. Now there’s a thought.

Drop me an e-mail and share your experience with me. I’d love to hear from you.

 

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